I have this family member who likes to keep the family together. She has never been married, has no kids and lost her mom last year. I never knew her dad, so he has been gone for a long while. She is a very nice lady, but she’s the one we all kind of roll our eyes about.
In her desire to keep the family informed and well, a family, she emails us all almost every detail she can. When I was pregnant with Isaac she began emailing my blogs out to family. I wasn’t too happy about it and I let her know in the nicest way I could. She understood and that was that.
Fast forward four years. With this pregnancy, we haven’t been quite as hush-hush as we were last time, but I’m still not blabbing it all over. It is not on Facebook and if you aren’t a close friend or family member (or are one of the three people that read my blog, that don’t fall into the other categories), you wouldn’t know I was pregnant.
Well, Grandma told this family member. With such exciting news, I’d have expected to be copied on an email telling the whole family. Instead, I received an email saying congratulations, how excited she was for me and if it was a secret. I told her it was on a “need to know basis” and she responded that she wouldn’t tell anyone that she was just so excited for me.
I’m so thankful she asked. I’m thankful I told her that it hurt me when she emailed my news before. I’m at peace. I feel like by addressing the issue up front years ago, we are in a better place now. She was never trying to be malicious, in fact, her intentions were quite the opposite. I see other write her off completely, instead of addressing whatever they feel is the problem. How sad to lose relationship over misunderstandings?