I’ve been thinking today about friends. I’ve always seen myself as a shy, introverted person, but in reality I’m a very social person. I like to be around people, a variety of people. I like to keep connections open and I’m quick to forgive.
Though high school and college, I wrote letter and emails to all my “friends,” I wanted to keep in touch with them. I wanted to know what they were doing and I wanted to get together when we could. Reading back through my emails 10 years later, they seem to be largely one-sided….me writing, begging to be written back, over and over again.
Enter the blogging world. I do the same thing. I comment, share my thoughts and opinions on others blogs when I feel I can contribute, hoping for some interaction…a comment on my blog, a response to my comment, but it is rare that that happens. (With exceptions and you know who you are).
Facebook…why do I post photos, videos and statuses? Because I like to look at photos, videos and status and I try to give others an indication that I’m there, I’m reading, that they aren’t posting into oblivion. I try to treat others how I want to be treated.
Let’s leave the online world and return to face-to-face interactions. I like to get together with people, I try to coordinate book clubs, dinners, parties, etc., but I seem to fall short. People don’t respond. How can you accomplish anything without communication? And when I’m invited to someone else’s event, I try to attend or let them know I won’t be able to, because I hate the wondering.
I reach out to people, this is what I do, but I wonder sometime why I do. Why to I invite people over for game night, when no one will respond? Is the no response because they are too busy, or is it because they really don’t like me? Should I stop inviting them? I’ve “lost” many friends this way, but I wonder, were they really my friend if we never did anything together and they couldn’t be curteous enough to let me know they couldn’t show up? And when I stop organizing or ask someone else to “organize” the next get together, I suddenly don’t hear from the person again. It really makes a girl wonder.
I’ll let the online world go. I choose to post, with little regard to my audience, so I can’t assume everyone that is reading my posts are friends. In fact, I can’t even assume that everyone who’s blogs that I read and comment to are even reading my blog, but man it’s nice to know who is (Thank you to those who do let me know your here! :))